☁️stay here 🎯
stick note reminders + cute Sophie Edell painting if I do in fact need to leave and astral project to this cute barn scene.
stay here 🎯
Hello sweet friends! What is bringing your peace today? This week? This lifetime?
This week I spent some time catching up on bookkeeping, 2020 gave me a bad habit of not doing my bookkeeping consistently. I bought myself a course to file my taxes properly, wrote a little “bookkeeping for Phoebe recipe” (gotta be in the morning, with a coffee, no music on, and I tell Simon not to talk to me for 2 hours) and sat down and took care of my shit. It is HARD for me to stay focused, I am not great at it. I love to pick up my phone and scroll scroll scroll, water my plants, text a friend, google pointless shit (IE what safety measure are included in safe houses?), take a whole hour to make a coffee, anything to not do the work of staying focused, staying committed to myself and my well being.
Getting really honest with yourself and being like “what do I actually need right now to be ok?” is hard. The tough bits of self-care are things that maybe don't always ~feel~ luxurious but DO contribute to your overall well-being. AND HERE IS THE THING ABOUT WELL-BEING!! WE GET TO DECIDE WHAT THAT MEANS TO US! As in, we owe our health, and wellness, and brain capacity to no one but ourselves. We get to decide that the tools we need are to stay committed to yourselves, and we get to decide what our commitments to self ARE. And when they change and shift and explode etc. For me getting honest about my self-care means having a good hard honest look at my finances, honest self-care means deleting Instagram off of my phone for days + weeks at a time, calling my therapist, or going for a walk when I don't think I want to but DANG it feels good.
I know staying committed to myself means the tricky bits of self-care. I can't make radical art and stuff without know how much funds I have to do it with, and I can't do those things if I am constantly distracted by my phone. The mantra I have to stay committed to myself and my mission, whether it is my mission for the moment, like completing a task, or my mission for the day, week, month, year, a lifetime, is stay here. I have to stay here. I have to recenter myself to stay committed to myself.
And it is such a PRIVILEGE to explore what our missions are. What our commitments to self are. And what well-being and okay mean to us. Who gets to explore these things and when? Part of my income is generated by promoting my classes, workshops, illustrations THINGS on Instagram. It’s a privilege for an artist to consider not participating in these things. What world can we vision for artists and creators and human beings to connect in a space that doesn’t value constant tributes to THE GRAM?
I have no answers, only marinating, and exploring, and visioning.
You + me, together!
Things that contribute to my meaning of wellbeing
New school of finance Sole Prop School
Community + Connection + Art (I'm teaching a special workshop next Friday with my GoodBoodyFeel fam)
Dr. Emily Bennett's The Foundation course. I did it last year and it has changed the way I look at taking care of myself right now 11/10 Emily is amazing + smart + cool +brilliant!!
This cute tool by artist Deana Zandt that helps define self-care vs self-soothing for YOU!
I love you all!
xx
phoebe
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