🕺🏻call your girlfriend 💤
I kept leaving my phone at home on hikes but I remembered last time so I got this gem for you all now. But also I love leaving my phone at home.
call your girlfriend
Hi sweet friends! How are you doing? When was the last time you took a break? What is your relationship to rest feel like right now?
I ask this question a lot in Okay Hang recently, I have been prompting students in my classes to evaluate what their relationship to rest is like. And I have never once heard anyone say “I’m great at resting”. It’s usually something along the lines of “complicated” “bad” or “I’m not good at it”. Which makes sense, there is everything in the world (capitlism!) to tell us to not rest, or that rest looks and feels a certain way, and that it is for certain people after you have done XYZ things to earn it. But y'all, I’m tired. And I bet you are too.
I took a week off of outputting, kind of. I did the best version of taking some rest my double fire sign self can manage (or whatever cocktail of genetics, star makeup, and memos I got from my parents + the world that makes me wanna work 24/7 till my wheels are gone, and then I will get out of the car and start running). I got a handful of my classes covered for the week, took on no new meetings, and went online when I was being intentional and purposeful. I wanted some time of input instead of output.
So instead of my usual relationship to rest where I burnt out get tired and I run into the woods for a week and ignore everything, I am going to try my best at a sustainable pace. Of noticing when I need a break before the wheels fall off and maybe even just stopping and resting for the sake of it.
Ways to trick your brain into thinking you "deserve" a break and feeling good
Cold calling my friends, like picking up the phone and calling my friends until someone picks up and they almost all say "I hate when someone calls me" but then we're on the phone for an hour and it's fucking great AND I'm not staring at a screen! I LOVE!
Bedroom dancing! I. AM. SO. EXCITED. THIS. IS. BACK! Dace is rest 🕺🏻
Outputting less (picking up my phone)
Inputting more (calling my therapist)
Creating together! Jaqueline takes over Okay Hang this Saturday and i am SO EXCITED 🎭
I love you all,
xx
phoebe
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