its not about you 🤸♀️
Being a big weirdo on the beach is not for the boardwalk of people watching me be a weirdo, but that is okay. Because it is for me. And being weird at the beach is my north star.
nothing is about me (or you)
Hi sweet friends! How are you feeling? The sweet defrost of winter is here and a nice reminder that yes the pandemic is awful, but also February just fuckin sucks (even though my Mums birthday is in February, that's like the only night thing about February, (hi Mum!))
I have found the number of people opening, subscribing, following, signing up, diving in affecting my mood more than usual the last few weeks. People leave a class, don't come back, unsubscribe, don't open an email, don't respond to a text sends ect. And I go fuck, am I doing something wrong?
BUT THIS IS OKAY!! BECAUSE IT IS NOT ABOUT ME! OR THEM! OR YOU OR ANYTHING! Hell it's even in the Four Agreements "What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream".
This is not the POINT of my work. The point isn't to have a HIGH ENGAGING EMAIL LIST (and sell to), the point isn't to SELL OUT A CLASS, the point isn't to be a genius everyone moment of the day. The point is sharing in my journey of being and feeling and trying to be okay. And that is just gonna not be for some people. In fact, the loud, colourful, weird way I go about things – I'm not gonna be for most people. ALSO. My work is not for others to serve my ego.
When someone leaves, or unsubscribes, or doesn't open my email, or even fucking respond to my text. It's not about me. It is about an overflowing inbox, it is about a child climbing on their lap, it is about the pizza is here, it is about their brain is at capacity, or they are just not in a place where they can hear what I am saying. It's not about me.
My sweet dear friend/mentor/guide to all things, Robin wrote in her newsletter (highly recommend subscribing) that her existence is a protest, that the difficult ways she goes about things is FOR THE COLLECTIVE LIBERATION OF ALL PEOPLE! That taking "the road less traveled", not upholding the status quo, is the road future generations with thank us for.
So maybe by focusing on our North star, our mission, even when it is tough and hard, and maybe you feel like ~no one likes you~, our you're doing it wrong. Whisper to yourself sweetly, or yell it loudly in the town square, ITS NOT ABOUT ME! What others do, or don't do, will not affect our mission here on earth.
As a subscriber list waxes and wanes, as someone exists out of a zoom class, as the words I deliver just are not for somebody. I will focus on those (you!) that are here, that support my work, that reply to the text, and send compassion to those I may no longer serve.
Wanna hear more from me? (hey maybe you don't) Reflections + worksheets + essays are being dropped in the Portal monthly. PWYC, dive in!
I LOVE INTERVIEW PEOPLE! I love getting into the nitty gritty of STUFF and my Shoe Talk with Stylo is a good one.
Thanks for being here, I love you all!
xx
phoebe
p.s
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