how to put down the phone đł
I was looking for inspiration to write this newsletter, I pulled a card, I talked to the ash tree out back. And we landed on "mirror".Â
Hey Folks! How are you reflecting? Within yourself, in your feeling, against others?
CW for todayâs newsletter. Disordered eating, restriction and addiction. Digest at your own pace in a space that feels ok (or not at all!)
Digitallessness is what I want. It is what I am calling my efforts to put down the fucking phone and look beyond. I feel extremely uncool talking about phone addiction, because I should just put the phone down. Shut up and log off. But, I canât. Like I canât.
I know my relationship with restriction pretty well, we donât mesh nicely. In our world restriction = valuable person. I remember being complimented for sudden weight loss in highschool, when I went back to school in September I got asked out on dates and made the dance team. People asked me âhow I did itâ and the honest answer was 1. A calorie counting app 2. Smoking to try and not eat 3. Binge eating instant ramen and drinking coke when I couldn't not eat anymore.Â
I think this is a lot of people's stories with restriction and addiction, we are given an impossible idea of what we are supposed to be with no real path to get there (because it doesnât exist). Relaxation requires a Drink in your hand, but productivity does not. We are sold these ideas of consumption but told not to consume in an effort to be âgoodâ.Â
This is me and my phone. It makes me feel awful. Like truly awful about my life, brain, career, relationships. But AND the restriction I have called in to combat it doesnât feel good. I delete the app and incessantly check my email, I scroll through my own photos, hunting for that good feeling.Â
So I am calling in Digitallessness. A space to give myself grace for the magic tool, black mirror, my phone can be. To cast spells of connection and force fields of self preservation. A space to reflect on restriction and find what feels okay in consuming.Â
INTO THE VOID starts on Saturday and we are exploring EXACTLY THIS. To explore what depletes us, and to cast boundaries around those things, to call in space to explore the full galaxy of those feelings and cultivate attention around these things that fill us up. We meet Saturday, the start of each month, with worksheets, audio notes and community connection off the app to stay committed to ourselves.
đ±July // Radical RestÂ
How do we explore creative rest + digital-less-ness + connection off the app?
đžAugust // You Are Good/ Relationship to creativity
What systems/people/things tell us not to be creative? How do we protest those systems?
đSeptember// Relentlessly you
Finding our super powers and dismantling the system
Each Month You Get
1.5 Hour circle the first Saturday of each month 11am EST (Recordings posted the following week)Â
Audio Note + Meditation
Worksheets for discovery and stay committed
Access to community Discord to stay connected
I've been taking 1:1 Creative Advising and Embodied Entrepreneurship clients over the last two years and I have really been loving working with people in this capacity. It is AMAZING what happens when we work on our business from a space of feeling + inspiration. I don't open up these spots publicly, but I am feeling called to hold space for individual support as we move through these BIG WAVES. If that feels like your jam you can book HERE.
big blessings, for space, for digitalessness, for staying committed to ourselves âïž
I love you, thank you
xx
phoebe
p.s
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