Boundaries are how I got where I am in my life. It is how I feel extremely pleased about myself, it is how I can take breaks, sing in the forest or make and craft forever. I do very few things I “should do” and when I catch myself thinking I should pick up the phone and call someone that only takes from me, I don’t. I regard my peace of mind first. I ask if this is harm prevention to myself and if I am bending so far I am going to break?
And I want to be clear here. I am talking about identities and other peoples expectations around those things. As an artist, queer person, woman, daughter, friend. Am I about to comprise my being to make another person more comfortable?
I use this model of evaluation in all things. In client work, in personal relationships, even from a very basic moment to moment “what should I do next on my to-do list”.
And this isn’t to say I don’t do my taxes, or go to the dentists. But instead I am boundaried around the shit that does take so deeply from me I am able to go to the dentist and its only shitty and annoying and doesn’t fully deplete me (and if it does I know to lay down for the rest of the day).
This has all been a lifetime of work and it’s not easy and its constant work to remind myself to not break off bits of me. Capitalism sneaks its way into my brain and I feel alone and don’t know where to turn and if it’s “ok” for me to build a boundary around a client or my practice or pricing and and and.
But I know we have to go together, I know being an artist means we need each other. I know when we talk about these things out loud there is a ripple effect of care in our community. I called up some artists that I really admire, across many disciplines and intersections and we are going to talk about exactly this. Out loud. Candidly. Together. Because this is hard shit, it is generations of undoing, and this group of artists truly embody their beliefs, values and boundaries.
BOUNDARIES FOR ARTISTS + CREATIVE ENTREPRENEURS 🍊
A panel for artists to craft boundaries in community and for those that want to hire artists and get the most out of their magic. 🔮
Boundaries For Artists is a panel discussion for artists and those that work with artists to come together to discuss strategies and methods to build an artistic practice that is regenerative instead of extractive in nature. This opportunity allows for people to submit their questions before the panel to receive tailored feedback for their specific issue. To create your own life without shoulds and embodied values and resilience in your boundaries ⚔️
NO MORE SHOULDS
Angsty Apathetic Aerobics 💀 (an incredible introduction to embodied boundaries 😉 We start Saturday Feb 19th - Recording available for 24 hours after)
Figuring skating is back and I did cry while watching all of the olympians (Canada, Russia and China were my favs)
Looks Like the Wellness-To-White-Supremacy Pipeline Is Alive and Well