omg Phoebe this was so beautiful to read! you’re literally always the person that i remind myself of that relates to the entirety mess of weddings, getting married, etc. i’m literally sitting on dates at dinner tables and whenever i drop that i’m disgusted by weddings and their eyes have that little glimpse of disappointment (as if they’d picture marrying me already after one date), i take a deep breath and know you exist out there and we share the same feelings about this.❤️i’m glad to hear you’re healthy and feeling like sharing your writing again with the weird internet. i hadn’t even noticed you were taking a break until i saw this arrive in my inbox and it made my day. (also i cried when you said you had teary eyes cause yeah it deeply touched me)
Hi! I found you through the Pretty Decent newsletter. I empathize with the contradiction of marriage and feminism. I got married at 26 and feared I was making a horrible mistake and that marriage would clip my wings. But in seven years of marriage I can also say that I came to a similar conclusion - being married does not many anyone less of a feminist. And simultaneously I see how society is set up to favor formal, legal partnerships, and the idea has been implanted in our minds that somehow marriage is something, the only thing, to aspire to. Sigh.
I enjoyed reading your critical perspective of choice feminism. I'd love to explore that more. I'm sorry about your cancer scare and I hope you are okay. Looking forward to reading more.
omg Phoebe this was so beautiful to read! you’re literally always the person that i remind myself of that relates to the entirety mess of weddings, getting married, etc. i’m literally sitting on dates at dinner tables and whenever i drop that i’m disgusted by weddings and their eyes have that little glimpse of disappointment (as if they’d picture marrying me already after one date), i take a deep breath and know you exist out there and we share the same feelings about this.❤️i’m glad to hear you’re healthy and feeling like sharing your writing again with the weird internet. i hadn’t even noticed you were taking a break until i saw this arrive in my inbox and it made my day. (also i cried when you said you had teary eyes cause yeah it deeply touched me)
thanks boo 💕 🫶
Loved this! Thanks for sharing ❤️
thanks melanie 💕💕
dang this is powerful
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Hi! I found you through the Pretty Decent newsletter. I empathize with the contradiction of marriage and feminism. I got married at 26 and feared I was making a horrible mistake and that marriage would clip my wings. But in seven years of marriage I can also say that I came to a similar conclusion - being married does not many anyone less of a feminist. And simultaneously I see how society is set up to favor formal, legal partnerships, and the idea has been implanted in our minds that somehow marriage is something, the only thing, to aspire to. Sigh.
I enjoyed reading your critical perspective of choice feminism. I'd love to explore that more. I'm sorry about your cancer scare and I hope you are okay. Looking forward to reading more.